Friday, June 14, 2013

Love...what is love? (warning...it's kinda mushy)

I was listening to Dr. Laura on podcast and a lady called saying she left her husband because he physically abused her and still abusing drugs and alcohol.

The caller left with her son but called to Dr. Laura to whine that she still loved him.

And so here's Dr. Laura's take on love:

LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH.

LOVE (What you think is love) ISN'T EVEN LOVE.

FEAR OF BEING ALONE.

DEPENDENCY ON EACH OTHER.

FANTASY WISHES OF EVERYTHING BEING MAGICAL.


Love should be:

Respect
Awe
Admiration

In all, she says love is not enough to sustain a marriage especially when one cares more about "fill-in-the-blank" destructive behaviors than the spouse and kids.

So powerful.

Why am I even copying this down?  Because I want to talk about my love for my husband.

His birthday was yesterday. He is truly the love of my life. I love him more today than when I first met him because my admiration and respect for him jumped to the forefront of the mushy feelings I had for him (you know the butterflies in your tummy).

He is so patient with the kids and myself. He is smart about his business and personal affairs. He takes into account other people's feelings.

My boys hit the jackpot in the daddy department. He likes to spend time teaching them how to work on cars, throw a ball, discipline with firm but loving touch, and he sets a pretty good example of how to be a dad and man.

I love that he loves ice cream cakes. It makes him so happy.

Love, love, love my lovely hubby.






Monday, June 10, 2013

Dr. L and his wife

In a town about an hour away lives a couple that is very special to me. The gentleman was my undergraduate professor and he was very special.  He took time to guide and mentor students to do the best they possibly can.

I recalled when I would go see him at the end of each semester to set up my next year's classes, I didn't even have to tell him and he didn't even have to look at my report card-he would already know how I did (usually pretty good) and would encourage me to reach beyond my comfort level.

He also would have get together for the students in his modest home where his wife made a delicious tomato soup cake (like a spice cake that I still love to this day).

Back to the present, they both are in their late seventies and he is in the middle stages of Alzheimer's while his wife has physical disabilities that makes it impossible for them to live by themselves anymore.

The boys and I went to visit them on Friday and I've got to say, I'm pretty impressed with how decent my boys have been in relating to them.  They hug, they listen, they make them laugh, they fetch and try to make them at ease. Since Dr. L and his wife have been in this facility for seven months, we've been able to visit a couple times a month, the boys are used to being there and just visiting with them.  I've been very impressed with how sweet my boys are with them.

They don't get much visitors so I teach my boys that they would want others to visit them if they were in the same situation.

Tuesday, June 4, 2013


Nothing says springtime like...BASEBALL and boys.

First time at baseball.